I love writing about small incidents that I come across
in my everyday life. It inspires me to pen it down, makes me think about something’s
that we take for granted and helps me value what I have J. Hopefully reading it makes
some difference to you too.
I travel 1.5 hours to and fro for work. I commute by bus.
I have ceased the talent to sleep in moving bus and however tired I am, I
usually listen to songs or just look out of the window with loads of unwanted
thoughts in mind….My friend, lucky for him just requires the bus to start and
can fall asleep. So I was just looking
around and waiting for the stop to come and the traffic to be less aggressive on
my journey. I suddenly noticed an extremely pretty young girl and an equally
gentle and sweet looking guy sitting in front of me. She had such innocence in
her eyes, long golden hair, lovely blue paint on her nails, simple white T and
blue jeans, a thin chain with a flower pendant and dimples flashed whenever she
smiled. She must have been in her late teens. The guy must have been in his
early twenties and had one of the most serene smiles, it was like he did not
have to say “everything will be fine”, his smile said that. I had no clue how
they were related, may be friends, may be relatives….
I did not mean to pry but initially I could not figure
out what she was narrating to him but later realized that she was recounting a
funny incident at a party recently about a girl. There were no repetitions required;
it was like he understood what she recounted and even those that she did not.
Then she moved on to narrating something that she felt very bad about, she
became a little emotional I guess since I saw him consoling her by placing his
hand on hers. They continued interacting for a while.
I remember having had a subject on communication skills
in my undergrad. Even today I get to hear from people that I need to be more
communicative, I hear relations breaking due to lack of communication which
lead to “misunderstandings” etc. We have been given everything and even extra
for communicating successfully with others…sometimes we are too lazy to use it,
sometimes we overdo it and sometimes we just don’t care much.
So what really is all these two above incoherent
paragraphs about? Eh? The guy and girl were deaf and dumb, they spoke through
sign language. In fact, when I closely observed they did not use sign language
that much, just occasionally….but when she was narrating those incidents to
him, he looked into her eyes and nodded for every silent sentence she spoke,
for every laugh she gave, he chuckled with her and for every sigh, he consoled her.
He gave her 100% attention and vice versa. How many times do we value what the
other person has to say enough to give them all our ears? How many times do we
value what the other person wants to hear when we talk to them? I might have
gone astray between good communication and valuing the another person but it is
just that relations can do a lot better when you use your communication well
and when you give enough importance to what is important for the other person
to say J
It does not require words, it just requires the sincere intent.
