Its really okie

Its okie to have realized at the cashiers that you forgot your wallet..

Its okie to have realized you have worn your top the wrong side at the b.stop...

Its okie to have dropped juice on ur top at the dinner table...

Its okie to have a basil stuck between your teeth and you dont realize till you are home...

Its okie to trip while getting into the train...

Its okie to not know how to use an office phone...

Its okie to ask the sales woman whether its a dress or a top...

Its okie to mistakenly burp at the dinner table..

Its okie to feel alone at a party where you dont know anyone..

Its okie to fill your dinner plate at a buffet thinking no one will notice...

Its okie to fall on a slipper road...

Its okie to break your sandals and limp away to glory...

Its okie to have your eyebrows messed up once...

Its okie to not know how to use an equipment at the gym...

Its okie to snort while laughing...

Its okie to spill water all over the table at a restaurant...

Its okie to knock someone over by mistake...

Its okie to have a zit on ur face...

Its okie to sometimes bitch abt ppl... :P

Its okie to be jealous sometimes...

Its okie to have a really bad hair day...

Its okie to spill out water while laughing uncontrollably...

Its okie to sneeze aloud in a silent room...

Its okie to spit out stealithily a dish you couldnt just take inside...

Its okie to get ur chewing gum stuck on ur hand while removing it...(eeu)

Its okie to scratch out your todo list and put exact same thing for tommorrow...

Its okie to almost fall in your bathtub and laugh to yourself...

Its okie to shriek when the shower hits your face with cold water when you least expected...

Its okie to not know how to operate the hot water/cold water in the bathroom...

Its okie to use extra lotion for free at hotels...

Its okie to bump your head while getting off the car...

Its okie to have put salt twice in the food...

Its okie to laugh on the road alone...

Its okie to have nothing to do on a weekend...

Its okie to have blurted out a surprise...

Its okie to have gotten on the wrong train...

Its okie to realize you have been staring an a stranger...

Its okie to have sat on someones hand/purse/glares cover unknowingly...

Its okie to check out yourself on a parked car's window...

Its okie to have poured too much oil/shampoo in your hands...

Its okie to have told hi when you werent told hi...

Its really okie to be imperfect, feel dumb at times, laugh on yourself and just be okie with who you are :)

When did I grow up ma....

You would give me bournvita at 6am while I was half asleep...
I got up today at 7am and made myself a tea while brushing my teeth and folding my bed...
When did I grow up ma...
I would make a face when you prepared some dish I did not like...
I fixed myself a half cooked lunch with extra salt and filled my stomach in peace...
When did I grow up ma...
You used to separate my dried clothes for laundry and iron the delicate ones..
I used to ransack the wardrobe for a top and crumple the ironing....
Fridays nights I laundry and Sundays I iron, I fold them neat and remove them patiently...
When did I grow up ma...
You had opened an account on my name and used to put money for savings while I hadn't the slightest clue...
I keep accounts every month in an excel sheet and count every pie i can save today...
When did I grow up ma...
When my Teacher scolded me or I had a fight with my best friend, I'd rush to hug you and you'd just hug me back and make my favorite dish that day...
My boss scolded me today for no fault of mine...I wept in the washroom and went on with the day...
When did I grow up ma...
I would throw tantrums to go to the music class while you tried to explain how important it would be...
I sing songs in the evenings to lift up my mood...
When did I grow up ma...
You and dad would explain me the routes to a place 15min from home over and over again yet I used to get lost and call you up...
I traveled across 7 seas alone...travel to unknown cities in trains and buses here...

When did I grow up ma...
I used to sit and play while dad made plans about a great vacation every year..
I am already planning and budgeting your visit here 1 year to go now...
When did I grow up ma...
The only utensils I used were plates and spoons to relish your food without a thanks..
Now I cook and wash and dry and arrange....cooker,pans,plates and spoons...
When did I grow up ma...
When we got a house, all I did was look around the walls, the garden and stalls..
Today I think of getting one and dream about staying with you and pa..
When did I grow up ma...
I don't know if I am glad I grew up or miss those things so much....
But I'll always be your kid ma....

Communication doesn’t require words….

I love writing about small incidents that I come across in my everyday life. It inspires me to pen it down, makes me think about something’s that we take for granted and helps me value what I have J. Hopefully reading it makes some difference to you too.

I travel 1.5 hours to and fro for work. I commute by bus. I have ceased the talent to sleep in moving bus and however tired I am, I usually listen to songs or just look out of the window with loads of unwanted thoughts in mind….My friend, lucky for him just requires the bus to start and can fall asleep.  So I was just looking around and waiting for the stop to come and the traffic to be less aggressive on my journey. I suddenly noticed an extremely pretty young girl and an equally gentle and sweet looking guy sitting in front of me. She had such innocence in her eyes, long golden hair, lovely blue paint on her nails, simple white T and blue jeans, a thin chain with a flower pendant and dimples flashed whenever she smiled. She must have been in her late teens. The guy must have been in his early twenties and had one of the most serene smiles, it was like he did not have to say “everything will be fine”, his smile said that. I had no clue how they were related, may be friends, may be relatives….

I did not mean to pry but initially I could not figure out what she was narrating to him but later realized that she was recounting a funny incident at a party recently about a girl. There were no repetitions required; it was like he understood what she recounted and even those that she did not. Then she moved on to narrating something that she felt very bad about, she became a little emotional I guess since I saw him consoling her by placing his hand on hers. They continued interacting for a while.

I remember having had a subject on communication skills in my undergrad. Even today I get to hear from people that I need to be more communicative, I hear relations breaking due to lack of communication which lead to “misunderstandings” etc. We have been given everything and even extra for communicating successfully with others…sometimes we are too lazy to use it, sometimes we overdo it and sometimes we just don’t care much.

So what really is all these two above incoherent paragraphs about? Eh? The guy and girl were deaf and dumb, they spoke through sign language. In fact, when I closely observed they did not use sign language that much, just occasionally….but when she was narrating those incidents to him, he looked into her eyes and nodded for every silent sentence she spoke, for every laugh she gave, he chuckled with her and for every sigh, he consoled her. He gave her 100% attention and vice versa. How many times do we value what the other person has to say enough to give them all our ears? How many times do we value what the other person wants to hear when we talk to them? I might have gone astray between good communication and valuing the another person but it is just that relations can do a lot better when you use your communication well and when you give enough importance to what is important for the other person to say J It does not require words, it just requires the sincere intent.